1. Names – a. Reinforce a new positive identity, “I’ve been shy here in the past but I’ll be better now.” b. Be with those that bring out the best in you; c. Habit trumps all.

2. Bad Jokes – a. Look for verbal hesitation, they’ll cut you off, shrink and self sooth, change topics if you see these signs; b. Jokes that make the other person feel guilty, don’t tease about things people are likely to feel sensitive about, compliment others either before or after teasing;

3. Bad relationship Signs – a. Major gap, history of abuse or telling you about bad intentions, b. Prioritizes attractive over honest, behavior is often justified as they don’t wanna loose you, c. nagging is bad, negative emotion is bad, positive emotion is good; d. Attack self esteem – until you do what they want e. Frequent crying; e. Actions don’t match words; f. Listen to friends/family and keep strong relationships; g. Listen to opinions of people who’ve had relationships you’d want, don’t let people cut off your relationships, control your time; h. If you can’t trust person to behave then end the relationship; I. Love at first sight is really bad and don’t make rash decisions based on it; J. Relationships shouldn’t be difficult

4. Joe Rogan Communication – a. Slow speech, emphasize end word, b. Don’t use filler words like, um, uh etc. C. Don’t let self be derailed deliver it through the inturruption, d. Call it out – hold on a second, let me finish speaking, e. Only focus on important stuff; f. Don’t raise voice; g. Acknowledge what was being said then return to conversation. G. Honesty always, share something about yourself that others may not like, call someone out for bad behavior but remember to console the other person, H. Share politics and religion, but don’t get too caught up in it; I. Engage with people you disagree with, surround self with those people

5. How to learn 100x faster – a. Find teachers, make sure each lesson builds on last, teaches based on skill level, teaches in same style you learn, set realistic goals, b. Celebrate wins, set a goal and celebrate completing it regardless of outcome, c. Make it fun to learn, find someone to learn with, broadcast interest, talk to those doing same stuff, practice 3x a week

A lot of people have a lot of opinions, here’s mine; daily habits that are good for you will change your life, they did mine;

1. Set a bedtime that gives you exactly 6 hours of sleep (+ 15 minutes in bed to fall asleep; no phone) take melatonin before bed to help you fall asleep. Go to sleep and wake up at the same time daily. This will fix a lot of problems. I try and pick a bedtime around 10 hours before school/work or so, the goal is to maximize your time in the morning when you’ve got energy, so say school starts at 8, then I’d say sleep from 5pm-11pm then grind afterword
2. I do a dream journal immediately afterword
3. Then I make my bed
4. A cup of coffee, tea, lemon water, a multi vitiman, a motivational video, clean your face and check the scale
5. Meditate for 20 minutes while jogging – YouTube has some guided meditation that’s great
6. journal for 10 minutes, use the phrase today I… (will do blank, or want to do blank work wonders as a way to get things flowing.
   This should all take 50 minutes or an hour at most.
7. Gym time – 2 hours; I’ve found upper/lower split works best alternated with mma (2 hours of mma on those days) and a 30 minute cardio burn in the end, alternate cycling, running and swimming. I try and listen to a podcast at the gym or an audiobook also.
8. Cold showers, not necessarly ice cold but at least the same temp you’d get in a swimming pool.
9. Pick a hygene routine and stick to it: exfoliator, moisturizer and sunscreen for starters, and charcoal toothpaste is bomb.
10. You ever seen that scene from the wolf of wall street? Beat your chest like the alpha you are in the mirror, no joke it feels good.
11. Cook your own breakfast, Gordon Ramsay is who i like to watch
12. Reading – a trp book for 20 minutes and ten minutes on a Philosophy, either Buddhism or stoicism;
13. Watch an AMS video and a Charisma on Command Video, also Charisma Matrix

Around 4 hours for all of this, total around 5 hours.

14. Learn a language – Duolingo to start, Id actually recommend 2, alternate them, ex: Russian on Monday and French on Tuesday, pick one you’d like to learn and one that’s difficult like I did. Get two crowns on duo, watch an occasional video on it;
15. Play guitar – 30 minutes, they’ve got good tutorials on youtube.
16. Learn to dance – 30 minutes, same deal as above
17. Yoga – puts you in a positive mood and strengthens your core like crazy – 10 minutes a day is all you really need
18. Cook your lunch – Gordon Ramsay 30 minutes
19. Take a 20 minute nap to give you energy to get through the rest

Total that’s 2 hr and 30 min; around 7.5 hours total.

If you have to move some of this stuff around it’s fine, but make sure you set aside time to work on your purpose, minimum 1 hour, ideally 2 hours a day 7 days a week. For me it’s writing novels, so I do that on my lunch break at work;

Everyday: don’t jerk off to porn, try not to at all

On your off days from school/work here’s your schedule – off day 1.

Forget the normal schedule – all day this is what I do: toastmasters public speaking, fishing, improv class, hiking, voulenteer, weekly shopping and a date night, either take someone but usually take myself out, just depends on how I’m feeling.

On off day two I do a dopamine fast, that means no external stimuli that produces dopamine at all here’s what you can do; clean house, meditate, walking, sitting in nature, writing (book), garden, blog and water; no food, tech, or talking, basically my day a week to be a fucking monk.

If you want to do therapy do it on off day 1, and don’t break the bank, but in my experiance before I started this routine around a year ago I was where you are – massively depressed and suicidal, but I fixed myself without nobody else’s help, and that gives me confidence like mad. I’m not perfect, I’ve still got a long way to go I still get depressed one day a month, usually on my fuck off days, but I have an idgaf mentality, I feel like I took myself from a peasant to a prince to a motherfucking king by my own hand and that’s a feeling no redpill book can give you, cause hell if I can do that then I can do anything, and I didn’t need anyone but myself to do it.

Remember don’t be looking for females, if you happen to find them then great but if not who gives a fuck, you’ll have no time for oneitis, no time to be depressed, you’ll have massive purpose and massive improvement. Plus you can always invite a chick to do something you were already scheduled to do.

your most common spots, or mine, to find chicks will be the gym, or the mma place, dance class if you do it, cooking class if you do it, in the park, improv, shopping, voulenteer, and during a date night a girl may give you choosing signals, up to you whether or not you get them.

Good luck

Edit: every two weeks or so I take a do nothing day, where I just basically fuck around; it keeps me from burning out and reminds me how good my routine actually feels. Dont feel too guilty about missing a day here and there, this is a rigorous schedule, but I try and remember that my time is limited, and every second I don’t use wisely is a second I waste. If you miss a daily thing or two that’s fine, remember if you do 80% of this list it’s still more than 99.9% of people do, and all provide great benefits.

Edit 2: forgot to mention friends, you’ve got four friends already through these habits – First yourself that’s the person you’ll be spending the most time with so treat him like the chad he is, second AMS is a legend, third Charisma on Command helped me out a ton with general social dynamics and charisma matrix with more specific social dynamics, those are your four friends; I’d say one best bro or maybe two who have the same goals as you in real life is a must, but don’t go looking for them, it’ll just happen long enough after hanging at the places you do as those are self improvement spots, just make friends/talk to the people there, not everyone you’re not trying to waste all your time yapping like a female, but strike up a convo on occasion and you’re bound to connect with a dude or two, and at least one or two of those will end up as a best friend.

Writing 15k words in one day was breathtaking for me.

Today I’ve written over 10k words total including this article, that’s the most I’ve ever written in one day and it’s been absolutely eye opening for me.

How did I do this? How can you do this? These questions will be answered down below.

I’m sitting here as we speak typing on my phone at my house, my WiFi isn’t working, and I’m big into self improvement so I’ve been looking into something called a dopamine fast – no external stimuli or pleasure of any kind, just you and yourself. This is extremely good to reset your brain I’ve heard.

I woke up at 4:30 am like normal and got going right away, spending around an hour and a half writing a chapter of my book, around 2.5k words down. 

Then some meditation, water and a break for my brain.

Afterword I did some more writing on my book from 6:30 – 8:30 it was a super long session and I got a bit over 3k words done this time, 5.5k total; I had to take a long break, I took a walk, with my dog and did as much meditation as I could manage. When I got back I took a cold shower and by the time I was done it was 10:00.

Back to my writing a huge 4K word chunk by lunch time and two more small chapters were done, that’s 4 total and 9.5k words; of course these chapters will need a lot of revision, but that’s not what I’m doing today, I’m writing.

After my water filled lunch I took a long break, I took a long walk to a lake where I watched nature and zoned out for a bit, meditates, did some yoga, came back and wrote in my journal for 200 more words, then decided to do some cleaning – laundry, dishes, everything I could and I got lost doing that, by the time I was done it was after 4. 

I decided to write some more, in two hours I got just over 2k words down, bringing my total to a hair under 12k, it’s 6pm now, and I make the decision to try to hit 15k, that’s a bit over 3k words, and I have an 8:45 bedtime, so not much time left, I do some meditation, and get back on it; I finish my 5th and 6th chapters in 2 hours adding 5.5k words on top of what I had. That’s 17.5k words total, a lot of words.

Atmiditly I do stay up past my bedtime, after writing this 500 word article and doing a bit more writing on my book, maybe 1k words in total, although that writing was mostly revisions.

In total I did 18.5k words in over 9 hours of total work, I had to take breaks inbetween to keep my sanity, as it’s very mentally draining writing this much, and as much as I believe it helped me out, especially with the writing speed it’s not something I’m going to do but maybe once every now and then. The quality of words written was also lacking, after revisions probably only 10-12k of them will stay.

Perhaps next time I’ll go for 20k words, as it was really close to that number, and perhaps if I’d taken a bit less of a break at some points, or if I’d pushed my sleep off longer I could’ve hit it. But alas, I’ll take 18.5k words

1. How to be immune from social pressure – a. Write down values, b. Build a core group of positive influences, c. Build conviction in yourself, d. If someone tries to tell you to do something respond with “it’s a good thing we each make decisions for ourselves, if things were different we’d both be unhappy.” E. It’s okay to move on from a group.

2. How to bust out of the friendzone – a. Take responsibility, you put yourself in the friendzone, be honest, risk rejection, escalate. B. Steady nerves – imagine worst case scenario, it’s okay to like someone, go for what you want; c. Reveal feelings in a non-needy way, goal is complete honesty, if things are reciprocated then kiss.

3. 5 phrases that kill charisma – a. No problem, instead say happy to help; b. You screwed up, instead say there was a mistake made, can you help me? C. Don’t pre-emptly disqualify yourself, either talk good or don’t say anything bad. D. You always/never (blank); instead say when you do (blank) I feel (blank).

4. Reasons nice people aren’t nice – a. Only doing nice things to get something in return b. Asking indirectly, remember to ask for what you want, it’s okay to ask; c. No means no, it’s okay to say no.

5. 3 jokes to make people laugh – a. Fake out – 1st sentence sets up expectations and next sentence breaks them. B. the caracature – slow pace and change voice; embody characters; c. Yes and – agree and amplify a joke.

6. Self esteem is overrated – a. Lacking confidence mindset – I’ll be kind to self if it goes well, but it won’t go well; b. Having confidence mindset – I’ll be kind to self if it goes well and it will go well; c. Self esteem – I’ll be kind to myself by living up to my values and trying my best; d. I’ll be kind to myself for the sake of being kind to myself no matter what.

7. Increase confidence, assertiveness and energy – a. Intermittent fasting, b. Lifting, c. Proper nutrition; fish oil, multivitamin, zinc, magnesium, vitimin D; d. Proper sleep 7 hours minimum, e. Eliminate Testosterone killers – sugar, man made trans fats, stress.

8. George clooney – a. Make self comfortable, greet others with a smile, keep a relaxed posture; b. Laugh with eyes, get involved emotionally, don’t force things; c. Strong eye contact when making main points; d. Bring up those in a lower position, tease people in a similar or higher position/self-deprication in a joking way; e. Goal is to make self and everyone feel good.

9. 5 psych tricks – a. The free trap, remember there’s still a time and energy cost, ask self would I get this for $1? b. Projection, internal problem we can’t cope with, integrate judgements about others into self c. Social proof and authority don’t equal experiances, use own experiances to make judgements. d. It’s okay to be hypocritical, be honest over integrity; e. Accept your losses.

10. Loki – a. Carefree Attitude – a. Life is only as stressful and serious as we make it. Ask self how can I make this situation more fun? b. Relate to other person – empathize with them, explain why you did what you did; c. Unpredictable, d. Attack problems with a smile.

1. Quick likeability – a. Playful misinterpretation, b. Honesty, share fears c. amuse self.

2. 4 ways to make small talk a. Compliment + cold read, you’re good at blank you must be a blank; b. Open ended/longer questions; c. Turn convo into a game; d. Ask for advice.

3. Storytelling principals – a. Take people on emotional journey, 1st person perspective and don’t jump to end; b. Constant element of mystery; c. End with a moral/lesson; d. Start with a problem

4. Jedi mindset sucks a. Accept your emotions; b. Emotions aren’t permanent; c. Handling feelings is better than burying them.

5. Vocal Tone – a. Speak from face – yawn, breath before speaking, more airflow is better.

6. Meet like minded people – a. Treat bad things like an addiction, ex: validation and prestige, don’t go on social media; b. Find a single person who shares goals and work with them; c. Do what you like and connect with those that share goals; d. Read books with multiple POV’a

7. Be interesting – a. High energy in the moment; b. Create mental list of topics; c. Tell good stories; d. Wide circle of friends; e. Focus on your dream daily.

8. Stay confident in embarrassing situations – a. Smile especially when embarrassed; b. Be authentic through embarrassment; c. Agree and amplify; d. Help others escape embarrassing situations.

9. Harvey Specter – a. Enter loud; b. Respond slowly, stroll and sit; c. stay cool, calm and collected, take a pause/breath; d. Enter without announcing; e. Downward inflection; f. Say what will happen with downward inflection; g. Enter high energy then taper off; h. When in confrontation attack frame not content of argument; I. Don’t try to impress or submit to others; J. Remember this person wants to partner with you; k. Say when you like someone; l. Screen people; m. Give people options; n. Give self options.

10. Charisma booster – a. Buy a notebook and write gratitude; b. Donate old stuff to goodwill; c. Connect with shy people; d. Active listen; e. Encourage others dreams; f. Acknowledge service workers and thank them.

First this isn’t a scientific blog post, it’s an opinion piece. I’ve recently began a new sleep schedule 10:30 Pm – 4:30 am, that’s only 6 hours, yet I’m completely awake and productive throughout the day why? One simple thing that you’ll find out later.

How should we define sleep? Most people use it to kill time, or because it makes them feel good but I’m of the opinion this is the wrong position to take, I believe redefining sleep is the first step to gain the full benefit of this sleep system, and the way to redefine it is as a necessary part of the human existence, a need not a want. If you treat it this way you’ll be less likely to overdo it.

Why is overdoing it bad? Because it adds up, if you sleep 9 hours a day that’s 3.35 years of sleep every ten years, or 0.335 years of sleep every year or a third of it, that’s more than an entire seasons worth of sleep, basically every year you’ll have slept from Halloween to leap day. If you sleep 6 hours a day that’s 2.6 years every 10 years or 0.26 years every 10 months, basically you’d be sleeping 3 months a year instead.

That may not sound like a lot of difference, but if you live to be 100 you’re saving up 13 extra years worth of time where you don’t have to sleep – what does that amount to? 114,000 hours – that’s a lot of time, enough time to learn 31 different languages, learn guitar and piano, become a doctor, a professional chef, write 10 books, and get a black belt in Brazilian Ju Jitsu, and still have a few thousand hours to spare.

So since we’ve redefined it how best to go about using this new knowledge, simple – set a specific bedtime everyday and stick to it, especially a specific wake up time. For example mine is 10:30 – 4:30, and I stick to it.

Something to remember is that it takes the body 15 minutes to fall asleep fully, that’s without a phone or any kind of distraction. So that means I get to bed at 10:15 and remove distractions like my phone from my area.

Another item to use is melatonin, as it helps you fall asleep faster into a deeper sleep, I’ve been taking melatonin for awhile, my rule of thumb is it takes 30-45 minutes to kick in fully, so I take it right around 9:30 so that I fall asleep on time.

The major thing that keeps me going are naps, one 30 minute nap around 1:00 pm keeps me going until the evening. I’ve found I’m tired as fuck, and can’t stay awake if I don’t.

So that’s my secret, go to sleep and wake up at the same time, take melatonin, remove distractions, and get a good nap in daily.

1. 4 ways to be liked – a. Warmness, touch others; b. Laughing at others jokes, but don’t force it; c. Teasing and complimenting them about what they’re in control of; d. Showing interest.

2. 5 morning routine habits – a. Glass of water, b. make bed, c. excercise, d. meditation, e. Positive Music

3. Win an argument without making enemies – a. Slow the pace and relax, focus on breathing; b. Make a joke, misinterpret words and laugh at your own joke; c. Ask questions, legitimately rephrase beliefs; d. Try to understand position and legitimately rephrase arguments, e. Yes, but – agree/validate early; tell where you disagree; f. Remember you aren’t always right; g. Goal is to get things right not to be right.

4. Awkward to attractive – a. Introduce self with physical touch ie handshake; b. Call out akward moments in a joking way and amplify social mistakes. c. Add 1 sentence/question; d. Over the top humor goes well with a deadpan expression, if you fuck up laugh at self; e. If there’s an akward silence you can either let it sit comfortably or create a hard positive pivot.

5. 5 steps to win an argument – a. Win-win mindset; b. Validate their opinion; c. Listen to their emotional wants; d. Recognize positive intent; e. Everything is negotiable.

6. Avoid embarrassing self in debates – a. Don’t have an aggressive tone/word choice; b. Don’t use “so you’re saying”; c. Find hidden pre-supposition; d. Assume relaxed open posture; e. Pause after each question; f. Smash technique – badger other person with questions; to get around this slow the pace; g. Don’t strawman the other person; h. Use visual imagery; I. Show them they already agree with you; j. Address their emotional concern; k. Console others when they lose.

7. Productivity – a. What would I do with infinite time? B. Get rid of time wasters such as tv; c. Avoid brain draining activities, ex: for an introvert that may be too much socialization; d. Excercise to improve testosterone; e. Hire people to do menial tasks.

8. Command respect without bullying – a. Pace reality, validate their opinion, mention what they may be thinking, raise hypothetical question, goal is education; b. Tell stories to capture attention; relate it to them; reference famous tales like Noah, Pinocchio etc. C. Encourage dialogue; d. Respect others to get respexfd

9. Inspire like Wonder Woman – a. Enthusiasm about things you like, don’t force enthusiasm; b. Idealism; high standards for self and others; include others especially in victories; ask questions; selective rule breaking. C. Decisiveness – decide to do something and stick to it.

10. Be popular and honest – a. Touch people in a friendly way; b. Genuine compliment; c. Mix compliments and humor; d. Show kindness to everyone, note: I’ve found trying to be perceptive to the feelings of others and the situation helps you do this well; e. Consistently honest; f. Focus on adding value to others.

1. Loving a Relationships – a. Take Risks, b. Playful in face of risk, c. Respectful Honesty, d. Go after what you want, e. Live for cause bigger than yourself; voulenteer

2. 7 dating advice tips – a. Negotiation is a bad tactic for change, internal change bears external change, accept person will stay the same; b. Chemistry is a phase, ask self if would be friends if wasn’t infatuated? C. Duration is a bad measure of relationship success D. Don’t give up relationships with friends e. Don’t change what you want to do for others f. When you’re in conflict explain the why of your actions.

3. Negotiation – a. identify real object you’re here to get, “I can’t” is a chance to negotiate, validate what they want. B. Make list of ways both parties can get objectives c. Keep no deal in back of mind d. Don’t bluff, screw them over or always agree.

4. Meet cool people at college – a. Be the hub, organize things; b. Be the beacon, stand out in a likeable way; c. Try new things.

5. Little finger – a. Don’t try to convince others about their decisions, if they don’t like your suggestion then drop it, plant ideas, make persuasive points, realize the decision is theirs and back off if not interested; b. Don’t let ego get in the way of goals, put your interests ahead of everything, even ego, turn the other cheek. c. Let others take the credit/feel in charge and successful. d. Don’t be sentimental, nothing is sacred. Don’t worry about trappings of power.

6. Have a tough convo – a. Write down what’s acceptable and what’s not; b. Empathize with other person; c. Set the tone, facts and feelings; when you say blank, I feel blank. Go on the record early. d. Make sure there is understanding; e. Own your faults; f. Use Socratic method for non-vital topics.

7. Storytelling – a. use a high emotion hook ex: the greatest moment of my life, then jump cut back to beginning and tell in first person, b. varry speech pattern, tone and energy, c. Emphasize specific words by dragging them out, d. Think about specific emotion and convey it with tone, face and body.

8. Conversation Openers – a. treat others like the human equivalent of google, drive toward feeling questions; b. Human Twitter – talk about topics around you; c. “Hey I don’t believe we’ve met I’m (blank).”

9. Body language tips – a. Expansive gestures, b. Seeking behavior is bad, engage with who you’re with. B. Smiling;

10. Be liked – a. Warmness – touch; b. Laughing at others jokes, but don’t force it so at least give a smile; c. Tease others than compliment about what they’re in control of; d. Interested in others.

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“Wasn’t ready to be no millionaire, I was ill-prepared
I was prepared to be ill though, the skill was there”

These kind of lines are why eminem is e goat, perfect wordplay.

“From the beginning, it wasn’t ’bout the ends
It was ’bout busting raps and standing for something, fuck an acronym”

Good wordplay in the beginning, and that kind of shit happens, goals change over time.

“Cut the fucking act like you’re happy, I’m fucking back again
With another anthem, why stop when it doesn’t have to end?”

Mans put out 3 full albums since then, it doesn’t seem like he’s stopping any time soon.

“It ain’t over ’til I say it’s over – enough when I say enough
Throw me to them wolves and close the gate up
I’m afraid of what’ll happen to them wolves
When the thought of being thrown into an alligator pit, I salivate at it”

That’s a badass line, flipping the traditional saying of being thrown to the wolves on its head.

“Wait is up, hands up like it’s 12 noon, nah, homie
Hold them bitches straighter up, wave ’em ’til you dislocate a rotator cuff
Came up rough, came to ruffle feathers, nah, egos
I ain’t deflate enough, last chance to make this whole stadium erupt”

Not quite the last chance, man has released 3 studio albums since then, one of them “kamikaze” definitely ruffled some feathers.

“I can see the finish line with each line that I finish
I’m so close to my goals I can almost pole vault over the goal post”

Okay, good wordplay in the beginning, the second sentence kind of sucked though.

“And if I don’t got enough in the tank, maybe I can just siphon enough
To fill up this last can, man will I survive in this climate or what”

I don’t know, climate change is killed.

“They said I was washed up, and got a blood bath
I’m not a rapper, I’m an adapter, I can adjust
Plus I can just walk up to a mic and just bust”

Introducing Eminem the adapter: he can fix your car battery, or your phone, or even your phone all for 3 easy payments of your soul.

“So floor’s open if you’d like to discuss
Top 5 in this mothafucka and if I don’t make the cut
What, like I give a fuck, I’ma light this bitch up like I’m driving a truck”

What are you Optimus prime too?

“To the side of a pump, 0 to 60 hop in and gun it
Like G-Unit without the hyphen, I’m hyping em up”

You hype me up often, killer fucking verses.

“And if there should ever come a time where my life’s in a rut
And I look like I might just give up, eh might’ve mistook
Me for bowing out I ain’t taking a bow, I’m stabbing myself
With a fucking knife in the gut, while I’m wiping my butt”

I guess that’s why it took him so long to put out revival.

“ ‘Cause I just shitted on the mic, and I like getting cut
I get excited at the sight of my blood, you’re in a fight with a nut”

I’m about to bust a nut.

“ ‘Cause I’ma fight ’til I die or win
Biting the dust it’ll just make me angrier, wait
Let me remind you of what got me this far, picture me quittin’
Now draw a circle around it and put a line through it, slut
It’s survival of what?”

Yeah, Eminem he’s not gonna quit, he never gives up except for all those times he gave up!

“So get your ideas, stack your ammo
But don’t come unless you come to battle, I’m mad now jump in the saddle
This is it, it’s what you eat, sleep, piss and shit
Live, breathe, your whole existence just consists of this
Refuse to quit, fuse is lit, can’t de-fuse the wick
I don’t do this music shit, I lose my shit”

I feel ya em, if I don’t write I loose my shit too, so I can relate.

“Ain’t got shit to lose, it’s the moment of truth
It’s all I know how to do, as soon as I get thrown in the booth, I spit”

What are you just hacking lugiez at the wall in a denies booth or something?

“But my respect is overdue, I’m showing you the flow no one do
‘Cause I don’t own no diploma for school, I quit”

That’s good for you, but kiddos at home, don’t quit school, unless you’re me and you quit college, then it’s okay.

“So there’s nothing for me to fall back on, I know no other trades
So you’d better trade your fucking mics in for some tool-box-es”

I guess he’s planning to become a mechanic… well he did say he’s an adaptor so he should be fine.

“ ‘Cause you’ll never take my pride from me
It’ll have to be pried from me, so pull out your pliers and your screwdrivers”

Well nurse, Let’s start with a scalpel.

“But I want you to doubt me, I don’t want you to buh-lieve
‘Cause this is something that I must use to suc-ceed
And if you don’t like me then fuck you”

You’d like to wouldn’t you, gay looking boy, what’d you say looking boy?

“Self es-teem must be fucking shooting through-the-roof ’cause trust me
My skin is too thick and bul-let proof to touch me”

What about scalpel proof?

“I can see why the fuck I disgust you
I must be a-llergic to failure ’cause every time I come close to it
I just sneeze, but I just go atchoo then achieve!”

That last line looks good on paper but sounds cringe.

Overall good song, would recommend in your workout playlist 10/14

1. 7 ways to be more popular – a. Conviction – strong self belief, lean in an and nod while making point, cut through detail when making points; b. Storytelling – slow down and focus on details, add 1 tangent, make eye contact during main points; c. Honesty – more open, no truth is unspeakable, be vulnerable and then move on to next thought, never hide truth; d. Non-judge mental – you’re 99.9% the same as your enemies genetically, everyone is the hero of their story your enemy is doing their best, never join those around you in hating on someone. E. Move toward passion, not power – focus on the quality or connection, speak an extra sentence to the person you’ve not been connecting with.

2. How to remain calm – a. Exposure therapy, but don’t rush into it; b. Use state breaking questions – ex: where did you get those shoes, use empathy, use carrot and stick method, ask self how to turn this situation into an asset.

3. Likeability – a. compliment people’s choices; actions, clothing, or for getting something done. B. Share a story that makes you look bad, be honest about what’s in others best interests. C. Keep convo focused on others. D. Open body language. e. Be thoughtful, exceed expectations without asking permission. F. Go first, especially to make jokes.

4. Influence anyone – a. Build rapport – put self on literal and figurative side; touching; get them talking for men it’s about solving problem, for women it’s emotions; “I care about what you have to say.” B. Learn how they view the world, actively listen; show vulnerability, figure out what makes them tick; c. Pacing and leading: state your world view, mirror how they feel, Share similar experiance, “i understand you feel (blank), Praise them, then lead them. Ex; “I believe in equality, I understand you’re mad about the gender wage gap, and you’re a very smart person so you should get paid as much as anybody, but closing the pay gap won’t solve anything because…”

5. Mark Zuckerberg – a. Be open physically and honest; b. Embarrassing situation, laugh at self and ask to see again, but don’t force laugh, you can smile and chuckle and ask to see it again. C. Congruence, believe what you say and say what you believe and have a tone that matches what you’re saying. D. Swing arms when walking. E. Be present, always.

6. where relationships go bad – a. Make sure to put self and goals first and also your purpose in life first, and also the future first; b. Spend time with friends; c. Sharing positive emotion is good.

7. Conversational mastery – a. Use how/why when asking questions, and ask open ended questions. B. Look to the environment for conversation starters. C. Cold read; you look like the type to (blank). D. Mirror conversation “so you like (blank)?” E. Revival questions: “how do you know one another?” “What’s your story?” Or “any future plans?”

8. Interview questions – a. Answer phone, b. Show up on time, c. Realize it won’t matter in 100 years d. Interview starts when you enter the building e. Open body language, deep breaths, open wrists; f. Figure out 10 stories from working past Pick 3-5 stories you can tell when asked questions. g. A good question: “let’s assume things go well and I get the job; in 1 year what will I have to have done well in the job to make the hire worth it?”

9. Don’t get cut off: a. Pause mid sentence, not at the end. B. Speak excited, especially at the beginning; c. Loud, you desserve to be heard; d. Don’t ramble; e. Compliments, fun and funny stories; f. If you need to complain do it via. Stories; g. Relate story to listener.

10. 3 ways to influence someone – a. Warmer rooms = more liked. B. The environment primes people to feel a certain type of way about you. C. People treat you how you’re dressed.